Every ordinary life story is extraordinary!

Every ordinary life story is extraordinary!

eHow Memoir Writing Tips, Part 3

When writing your memoir, consult with others to compare memories and find out what they want to know about you.

We’re halfway through the eHow.com instructions for writing a memoir. They’ve brought up valuable points, so on to the next two:

5. Ask your children, friends and family members what they’ve always wanted to know about you and your life. Make a list of their questions and answer them in your mini autobiography.

WriteMyMemoirs commentary: This can provide a guide in developing chapter topics and determining which parts of your life should get the most attention. This process also will give you ideas for including information you may otherwise overlook. Ultimately, you’re writing the story you want to write, but it can be helpful to take into consideration the gaps in knowledge people have about your life.

6. Interview people in your life. Doing so might help jog your memory about events or people in your life you’ve forgotten about. What friends and family members remember might be very different from what you remember, as well. Include quotes from individuals in your life to create a colorful autobiography.

WriteMyMemoirs commentary: If you’ve ever exchanged memories with someone of an event you both attended, you know how different the accounts can be. We can’t trust our own recollections completely. Even if you end up trusting your memories over someone else’s, this exercise may bring up facts and dates you can check on the Internet. The second part of this tip—including quotes from others—is a suggestion that you may or may not want to follow. It can round out a memoir, but that’s up to the individual memoir writer to decide.

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Then just set up a chapter and start writing your memoir. Don’t worry about rules. There are no rules to writing your memoir; there are only trends. These trends are based on techniques and features identified in current top-selling memoirs. At best, they’re the flavor of the month. If you’re capturing your life in print for your family, for your own gratification or to inspire readers, rather than aiming to set off Hollywood screenplay bidding wars, these trends don’t even apply to you. You’ll write the memoir that suits you best, and it will be timeless, not trend-driven.There are no rules, but there are four steps:

1. Theme/framework
2. Writing
3. Editing/polishing
4. Self-publishing

You’ve researched this, too, and you’ve been shocked at the price for getting help with any one of those steps, much less all four. That’s because most memoir sites promise to commercialize your work. They’ll follow a formula based on current memoir trends, because they want to convince you that they can turn your memoir into a best-seller. These sites overwhelm you with unnecessary information not to help you, the memoir author, but to address Search Engine Optimization (SEO) algorithms so they can sell more.

That’s not what we do at Write My Memoirs. Our small community of coaches, writers and editors are every bit as skilled as any you’ll find, and we charge appropriately for their expertise and the time they’ll spend helping you craft a compelling, enjoyable read. But you won’t pay an upcharge for other websites’ commercialization, the marketing that follows, and the pages of intimidating “advice.” You can sell your book if you like—we have ISBNs available for you—but our organic process of capturing your story takes a noncommercial path.

If you want help with any or all of the four steps above, choose from our services or save money by selecting one of our packages. If you’d like to talk about what’s right for you, schedule a call. One year from now, you can be holding your published memoir in your hand. And at that point, it will be a big deal!