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An Outline Can Organize Your Memoir

An Outline Can Organize Your Memoir
A comment prompted by last week’s blog asked for more advice in getting started on a memoir. Creating an outline is an effective strategy because it’s an easier first step than writing a chapter, and the structure will guide you throughout the entire writing process.
Any decent word processing program will help you to format the outline. One common design uses, in order: roman numeral, capital letter, arabic number, lower-case letter, arabic number in parentheses, lower-case letter in parentheses and lower-case roman numeral in parentheses. You probably won’t even need to get into that level of detail. The idea is to trigger your memory and organize your thoughts so that you know where you’re going next. When applied to a memoir, it might look like this:
I. Childhood
A. Parents’ background
B. Siblings
C. School
D. Friends
E. Teen Years
II. Early Adulthood
A. 20s
1. First jobs
2. Meeting spouse
a. Courtship & marriage
b. Spouse’s family background
3. Birth of first child
B. 30s
1. New career
a. Night classes
b. Job at Company X
(1) Promotions
(a) Supervisor
(b) District manager
(i) Incident in New York
(ii) Company growth
c. Job at Company Y
2. Children
You can fill it in with a lot more—entire sentences if you like. You also don’t have to go in chronological order; check this page for other organizational options. When you become a WriteMyMemoirs member and go through our helpful interview process, a time line is created that serves as a type of outline for you. It provides cues to notable dates in your education and career, and we are working on a second time line that will organize your family life in the same way. We’re here to help, so please ask if you still have questions.

A comment prompted by last week’s blog asked for more advice in getting started on a memoir. Creating an outline is an effective strategy because it’s an easier first step than writing a chapter, and the structure will guide you throughout the entire writing process.

Any decent word processing program will help you to format the outline. One common design uses, in order: roman numeral, capital letter, arabic number, lower-case letter, arabic number in parentheses, lower-case letter in parentheses and lower-case roman numeral in parentheses. You probably won’t even need to get into that level of detail. The idea is to trigger your memory and organize your thoughts so that you know where you’re going next. When applied to a memoir, it might look like this:

I. Childhood

A. Parents’ background

B. Siblings

C. School

D. Friends

E. Teen Years

II. Early Adulthood

A. 20s

1. First jobs

2. Meeting spouse

a. Courtship & marriage

b. Spouse’s family background

3. Birth of first child

B. 30s

1. New career

a. Night classes

b. Job at Company X

(1) Promotions

(a) Supervisor

(b) District manager

(i) Incident in New York

(ii) Company growth

c. Job at Company Y

2. Children

You can fill it in with a lot more—entire sentences if you like. You also don’t have to go in chronological order; click here for other organizational options. When you become a WriteMyMemoirs member and go through our helpful interview process, a time line is created that serves as a type of outline for you. It provides cues to notable dates in your education and career, and we are working on a second time line that will organize your family life in the same way. We’re here to help, so please ask if you still have questions.

Good Week to Start Your Memoir

Good Week to Start Your Memoir
Lately we’ve been getting a lot of new members at WriteMyMemoirs, and we want to welcome all of you. However, we notice that many of you who have signed up recently have not yet gotten into the nitty-gritty of the writing. This is a great week to start—especially for Americans—for several reasons:
1. Today is a sad anniversary in the U.S. You’ve probably compared notes many times about “Where were you when JFK was shot?” So you already have that scene of receiving tragic news burned into your memory. You were at school or at work or at home, or maybe serving your country. You can start a chapter just describing what life was like for you at the time, and then go back to earlier in your life as well as crafting chapters on what happened next.
2. Thanksgiving is a holiday of traditions. What are yours? Think about all of the Thanksgiving dinners you’ve cooked and attended, and how they’ve changed over the years. Begin with the one you liked to write about most. You even could use this as a theme and start each chapter with the scene of a special holiday or tradition to makes a truly unique memoir.
3. Get your memoirs underway now, and when the year ends you’ll have a six-week head start on what is sure to be one of your New Year’s resolutions!
We at WriteMyMemoirs wish all celebrants a Happy Thanksgiving!

Lately we’ve been getting a lot of new members at WriteMyMemoirs, and we want to welcome all of you. However, we notice that many of you who have signed up recently have not yet gotten into the nitty-gritty of the writing. This is a great week to start—especially for Americans—for several reasons:

  1. Today is a sad anniversary in the U.S. You’ve probably compared notes many times about “Where were you when JFK was shot?” So you already have that scene of receiving tragic news burned into your memory. You were at school or at work or at home, or maybe serving your country. You can start a chapter just describing what life was like for you at the time, and then go back to earlier in your life as well as crafting chapters on what happened next.
  2. Thanksgiving is a holiday of traditions. What are yours? Think about all of the Thanksgiving dinners you’ve cooked and attended, and how they’ve changed over the years. Begin with the one you’d like to write about most. You even could use this as a theme and start each chapter with the scene of a special holiday or tradition to make a truly unique memoir.
  3. Get your memoirs underway now, and when the year ends you’ll have a six-week head start on what is sure to be one of your New Year’s resolutions!

We at WriteMyMemoirs wish all celebrants a Happy Thanksgiving!

Online Research Supplies Memoir Details

Online Research Supplies Memoir Details
To write your memoirs, you probably rely primarily on your own memory. But no one remembers everything accurately. If you and your sibling compare notes about an anecdote from your early family life, you’ll likely find discrepancies with no way to tell whose description is closer to what actually happened.
But some facts are verifiable. When and where was that uncle born? In what year did that neighbor die? What was the weather like that day? What street did that friend live on? All of these details add texture to your writing even if they’re not essential to the core of your story.
Today, you can locate many of these facts from the comfort of your computer desk. Most ancestral websites—ancestry.com and archives.com are two—require payment to get to the records. But they also tend to offer a free seven-day period to try out the site. You will have to register, but you won’t have to pay. As you write, leave the dates and places in question blank. When you’ve finished the rest of your memoir, make a list of all of the people you need to research, and try to fit that research into the free seven-day period. Weather on a day in history is easy—and free. Try almanac.com, farmersalmanac.com or weather.org. Finding an old address is trickier, and your best bet for that, as well as some birth, death and marriage records, is to go through local resources. Check out the tips at howtoinvestigate.com.

To write your memoirs, you probably rely primarily on your own memory. But no one remembers everything accurately. If you and your sibling compare notes about an anecdote from your early family life, you’ll likely find discrepancies with no way to tell whose description is closer to what actually happened.

But some facts are verifiable. When and where was that uncle born? In what year did that neighbor die? What was the weather like that day? What street did that friend live on? All of these details add texture to your writing even if they’re not essential to the core of your story.

Today, you can locate many of these facts from the comfort of your computer desk. Most ancestral websites—ancestry.com and archives.com are two—require payment to get to the records. But they also tend to offer a free seven-day period to try out the site. You will have to register, but you won’t have to pay. As you write, leave the dates and places in question blank. When you’ve finished the rest of your memoir, make a list of all of the people you need to research, and try to fit that research into the free seven-day period. Weather on a day in history is easy—and free. Try almanac.com, farmersalmanac.com or weather.org. Finding an old address is trickier, and your best bet for that, as well as some birth, death and marriage records, is to go through local resources. Check out the tips at howtoinvestigate.com.

Why Your Life Is Interesting

Why Your Life Is Interesting
A common theme running through much of the email we receive at WriteMyMemoirs essentially asks: “Is my life interesting?” Typically, the email writer provides a synopsis of his or her life, or maybe just a few of the highlights, to help us determine whether this is a life worth documenting, a story someone would want to read. We believe in the power of the memoir, so it will come as no surprise that we respond to these emails with a resounding, “Yes!”
First, it’s our conviction that every life story is interesting. People are like snowflakes—no two of us are alike. Every personality is unique. Just as unique and unpredictable is the path we each take, the people we encounter along that path and our individual responses to the route’s scenery, delights and obstacles. Even identical twins, with the same parents and general upbringing, have vastly different tales to tell.
Second, you’re living in a fast-moving world. You’re an eyewitness to pivotal technological developments, monumental changes in global politics, devastating natural disasters and countless incidents of joy and triumph. As you were growing up, you couldn’t have imagined what might impact your life. Now that you have tackled the difficulties and enjoyed the pleasures, write about it! Your family will appreciate it, friends will cherish your words and your time here on earth will be remembered. Is your life interesting? You bet.

A common theme running through much of the email we receive at WriteMyMemoirs essentially asks: “Is my life interesting?” Typically, the email writer provides a synopsis of his or her life, or maybe just a few of the highlights, to help us determine whether this is a life worth documenting, a story someone would want to read. We believe in the power of the memoir, so it will come as no surprise that we respond to these emails with a resounding, “Yes!”

First, it’s our conviction that every life story is interesting. People are like snowflakes—no two of us are alike. Every personality is unique. Just as unique and unpredictable is the path we each take, the people we encounter along that path and our individual responses to the route’s scenery, delights and obstacles. Even identical twins, with the same parents and general upbringing, have vastly different tales to tell.

Second, you’re living in a fast-moving world. You’re an eyewitness to pivotal technological developments, monumental changes in global politics, devastating natural disasters and countless incidents of joy and triumph. As you were growing up, you couldn’t have imagined what might impact your life. Now that you have tackled the difficulties and enjoyed the pleasures, write about it! Your family will appreciate it, friends will cherish your words and your time here on earth will be remembered. Is your life interesting? You bet.

The Elements of Style: Still Relevant?

The Elements of Style: Still Relevant?
Writers unsure of their grammar often ask me to recommend a reference. After all these years, I still mention The Elements of Style by William Strunk, Jr., and E.B. White. Yes, that’s the same E.B. White who authored the children’s classic, Charlotte’s Web. If you ever took English 101 in college, you may have The Elements of Style sitting on a bookcase somewhere. First published in 1959, it was at one time a standard required text and, while some points are dated, I find that it has mostly stood the test of time.
When you think of a grammar or style book, you probably envision a huge, hardback, doorstop-worthy tome, but Struck and White’s soft-cover, 71-page booklet can fit into a coat pocket. Yet it covers everything from fine points of grammar to broad suggestions on style. Here’s one example of the more general advice, found under the topic, “Avoid fancy words”:
“Avoid the elaborate, the pretentious, the coy, and the cute. Do not be tempted by a twenty-dollar word when there is a ten-center handy, ready and able….If you admire fancy words, if every sky is beauteous, every blonde curvaceous, if you are tickled by discombobulate, you will have a bad time with [this reminder]….There is nothing wrong, really, with any word—all are good, but some are better than others….The line between the fancy and the plain, between the atrocious and the felicitous, is sometimes alarmingly fine.”

Memoir writers unsure of their grammar often ask me to recommend a reference. After all these years, I still mention The Elements of Style by William Strunk, Jr., and E.B. White. Yes, that’s the same E.B. White who authored the children’s classic, Charlotte’s Web. If you ever took English 101 in college, you may have The Elements of Style sitting on a bookcase somewhere. First published in 1959, it was at one time a standard required text and, while some points are dated, I find that it has mostly stood the test of time.

When you think of a grammar or style book, you probably envision a huge, hardback, doorstop-worthy tome, but Strunk and White’s soft-cover, 71-page booklet can fit into a coat pocket. Yet it covers everything from fine points of grammar to broad suggestions on style. Here’s one example of the more general advice, found under the topic, “Avoid fancy words”:

“Avoid the elaborate, the pretentious, the coy, and the cute. Do not be tempted by a twenty-dollar word when there is a ten-center handy, ready and able….If you admire fancy words, if every sky is beauteous, every blonde curvaceous, if you are tickled by discombobulate, you will have a bad time with [this reminder]….There is nothing wrong, really, with any word—all are good, but some are better than others….The line between the fancy and the plain, between the atrocious and the felicitous, is sometimes alarmingly fine.”

Twitter Watch: What You’re Missing

Twitter Watch: What You’re Missing
You probably don’t tweet. That doesn’t mean you can’t join the twittersphere at twitter.com and follow other people’s tweets. Eventually you’ll pipe up when you have something to tweet about. Meanwhile, you can find out a lot in a short period of time, since each tweet is limited to 140 characters. WriteMyMemoirs does tweet, and we also follow others. Looking over the latest tweets from those we follow, we thought we’d share.
From GothamWriters, we learn that Anne Tyler once said, “For me, writing something down was the only road out.” TIMECulture recommends Backward Ran Sentences: The Best from Wolcott Gibbs. TheBookMaven supplies a link to an article promoting the universal practice of reading on the potty. BookReviews12 links to a review of Successful Executive’s Handbook. RandomHouse mentions that—who knew?—today is World Pasta Day. To retweet that post: “Holy Ravioli!”
Use Twitter as just another tool to guide you to sources and keep you motivated to write your memoirs. Do a search on twitter.com for “books,” “memoir,” “autobiography,” “life story,” “author” and anything else you think may pull up tweets you can follow for information pertaining to your memoir. Your own tweets can trace your journey of writing your memoir and link to online sources that help you. And don’t forget to follow WriteMyMemoirs on Twitter!
http://twitter.com/#!/writemymemoirs

You probably don’t tweet. That doesn’t mean you can’t join the twittersphere at twitter.com and follow other people’s tweets. Eventually you’ll pipe up when you have something to tweet about. Meanwhile, you can find out a lot in a short period of time, since each tweet is limited to 140 characters. WriteMyMemoirs does tweet—typically to alert people to the latest published or rumored memoir—and we also follow others. Looking over the latest tweets from those we follow, we thought we’d share.

From GothamWriters, we learn that Anne Tyler once said, “For me, writing something down was the only road out.” TIMECulture recommends Backward Ran Sentences: The Best from Wolcott Gibbs. TheBookMaven supplies a link to an article promoting the universal practice of reading on the potty. BookReviews12 links to a review of Successful Executive’s Handbook. RandomHouse mentions that—who knew?—today is World Pasta Day. To retweet that post: “Holy Ravioli!”

Use Twitter as just another tool to guide you to sources and keep you motivated to write your memoirs. Do a search on twitter.com for “books,” “memoir,” “autobiography,” “life story,” “author” and anything else you think may pull up tweets you can follow for information pertaining to your memoir. Your own tweets can trace your journey of writing your memoir and link to online sources that help you. And don’t forget to follow WriteMyMemoirs on Twitter

http://twitter.com/#!/writemymemoirs

You May Live On Digitally

Publishing a memoir is one way to create a record of your life that lives on after you die. For many people, that’s the main motivation for writing one. Now consider this: you’re also creating a record, and possibly a less deliberate one, if you’re involved with social media. Every time you update your Facebook status or issue a tweet on Twitter, you’re leaving a written account of a piece of your life. Emails contribute to this, too.

Adam Ostrow, editor-in-chief of mashable.com, takes a closer look at the possibilities of the digital afterlife on a ted.com post. He speculates that people who miss you ultimately may be able interact with a hologram of you that communicates thoughts developed through a computer-generated guess at what you might say next based on what you’ve posted and tweeted in the past.

By that time, of course, it will all be out of your control. Such futuristic possibilities provide an even more compelling reason to write a memoir that you craft with purpose. Your own written account of your life will stand as a sort of “last word” on what you wanted to say and, ultimately, how you wanted to be remembered. It trumps a tweet that you may have issued in an emotional moment. So continue writing your memoir! Still, it’s interesting to contemplate what else will represent your life in years to come.

Have You Tried to “Contact Us”?

Have You Tried to “Contact Us”?
We hope you’ve been enjoying the new features on WriteMyMemoirs. Please make sure to fill out the “interview” questions that provide an outline of the dates and events in your life story. Then as you write, you’ll be able to access hints to tickle your memory about what was going on in the world and in your life during the time period you’re addressing. We’re very proud of these capabilities!
We are still in the process of coordinating our pages and removing outdated material, so please bear with us! During this redesign, we also had a technological glitch that delayed our response to messages coming in through the “Contact Us” forms. We have it worked out now, and if you wrote to us in that manner you should have a reply by now. If not, we invite you to email us directly to:
su*****@************rs.com
Your communication is very important to us; we value every single one of our members and thank you for your patience. Please “like” us on Facebook, and feel free to open up a discussion on our Facebook page if you need help with writing concepts or motivation to keep plugging away at your memoir.

We hope you’ve been enjoying the new features on WriteMyMemoirs. Please make sure to fill out the “interview” questions that provide an outline of the dates and events in your life story. Then as you write, you’ll be able to access hints to tickle your memory about what was going on in the world and in your life during the time period you’re addressing. We’re very proud of these capabilities!

We are still in the process of coordinating our pages and removing outdated material, so please bear with us! During this redesign, we also had a technological glitch that delayed our response to messages coming in through the “Contact Us” forms. We have it worked out now, and if you wrote to us in that manner you should have a reply by now. If not, we invite you to email us directly to:

su*****@************rs.com

Your communication is very important to us; we value every single one of our members and thank you for your patience. Please “like” us on Facebook, and feel free to open up a discussion on our Facebook page if you need help with writing concepts or motivation to keep plugging away at your memoir.

Beware the “Tell-All” Fallout

Beware the “Tell-All” Fallout
If you’re planning on writing a memoir that dishes dirty family secrets, you might want to think it through. Be prepared for your family to be angry at you, because seeing their actions through your critical eyes does not tend to create harmony.
Moms haven’t had a good year in memoirland. There was Ashley Judd’s exposé of her famous country mama Naomi, which had both Naomi and Ashley’s half-sister Wynonna hopping mad. Next we heard about Katy Perry’s mother, who was not the subject of a memoir but, rather, the one who wrote her own memoir. In it, she lamented that Katy’s fashion taste and music were too risqué for her taste, an opinion that created what Katy’s father referred to as “tension” in the family.
The latest tell-all, set to hit stores on October 18, is Whateverland: Learning to Live Here, by Martha Stewart’s daughter Alexis Stewart. Reportedly, the book gives ample evidence supporting Alexis’s conclusion that her mom “was not interested in being kid-friendly.” But Alexis has hedged her bets by dedicating her memoir to none other than Martha dearest and proactively using the dedication to more or less ask forgiveness. The dedication reportedly says: “Thanks in advance to my mother for not getting angry about anything written in this book.” If your memoir trashes a family member, you might want to try that approach. Let us know if it works.

If you’re planning on writing a memoir that dishes dirty family secrets, you might want to think it through. Be prepared for your family to be angry at you, because seeing their actions through your critical eyes does not tend to foster harmony.

Moms haven’t had a good year in memoirland. There was Ashley Judd’s exposé of her famous country mama Naomi, which had both Naomi and Ashley’s half-sister Wynonna hopping mad. Next we heard about Katy Perry’s mother, who was not the subject of a memoir but, rather, the one who wrote her own memoir. In it, she lamented that Katy’s fashion taste and music were exceedingly risqué, an opinion that created what Katy’s father referred to as “tension” in the family.

The latest tell-all, set to hit stores on October 18, is Whateverland: Learning to Live Here, by Martha Stewart’s daughter Alexis Stewart. Reportedly, the book gives ample evidence supporting Alexis’s conclusion that her mom “was not interested in being kid-friendly.” But Alexis has hedged her bets by dedicating her memoir to none other than Martha dearest and proactively using the dedication to more or less ask forgiveness. The dedication reportedly says: “Thanks in advance to my mother for not getting angry about anything written in this book.” If your memoir trashes a family member, you might want to try that approach. Let us know if it works.

10 Fall Reading Suggestions

10 Fall Reading Suggestions
When you’re not writing your memoir, many of you are avid readers. Our local reviewer, Julia Keller of the Chicago Tribune, recommends five fiction and five nonfiction books coming out this fall. Enjoy!
Fiction: 1) The Lost Memory of Skin, by Russell Banks, a “disturbing” portrait of a convicted sex offender. 2) The Cat’s Table, by Michael Ondaatje, a 1950s story of a young boy’s dinners aboard a ship crossing the Indian Ocean. 3) The Stranger’s Child, by Alan Hollinghurst, following a wealthy family in post-World War I Britain. 4) 11/22/63, by Stephen King, exploring what might have happened if someone had stopped Oswald from assassinating JFK. 5) Mrs. Nixon: A Novelist Imagines a Life, by Ann Beattie, an imaginative trek through the private thoughts of Pat Nixon during the 1960s-’70s.
Nonfiction: 1) The Other Walk: Essays, by Sven Birkerts, a collection of personal reflections on myriad topics. 2) Floating Worlds: The Letters of Edward Gorey & Peter F. Neumeyer, edited by Peter F. Neumeyer, a must for any fan of the reclusive Edward Gorey. 3) The Table Comes First: Family, France, and the Meaning of Food, by Adam Gopnik, exploring, and contributing to, the nation’s fixation on food. 4) Catherine the Great: Portrait of a Woman, by Robert K. Massie, a textured look at a player in pre-revolutionary Russia who has been regarded narrowly. 5) Freud’s Couch, Scott’s Buttocks, Bronte’s Grave, by Simon Goldhill, which channels Victorian times, when fans traveled to authors’ homes for inspiration.

When you’re not writing your memoir, many of you are avid readers. Our local reviewer, Julia Keller of The Chicago Tribune, recommends five fiction and five nonfiction books coming out this fall. Enjoy!

Fiction: 1) The Lost Memory of Skin, by Russell Banks, a “disturbing” portrait of a convicted sex offender. 2) The Cat’s Table, by Michael Ondaatje, a 1950s story of a young boy’s dinners aboard a ship crossing the Indian Ocean. 3) The Stranger’s Child, by Alan Hollinghurst, following a wealthy family in post-World War I Britain. 4) 11/22/63, by Stephen King, exploring what might have happened if someone had stopped Oswald from assassinating JFK. 5) Mrs. Nixon: A Novelist Imagines a Life, by Ann Beattie, an imaginative trek through the private thoughts of Pat Nixon during the 1960s-’70s.

Nonfiction: 1) The Other Walk: Essays, by Sven Birkerts, a collection of personal reflections on myriad topics. 2) Floating Worlds: The Letters of Edward Gorey & Peter F. Neumeyer, edited by Peter F. Neumeyer, a must for any fan of the reclusive Edward Gorey. 3) The Table Comes First: Family, France, and the Meaning of Food, by Adam Gopnik, exploring, and contributing to, the nation’s fixation on food. 4) Catherine the Great: Portrait of a Woman, by Robert K. Massie, a textured look at a player in pre-revolutionary Russia who has been regarded narrowly. 5) Freud’s Couch, Scott’s Buttocks, Bronte’s Grave, by Simon Goldhill, which channels Victorian times, when fans traveled to authors’ homes for inspiration.

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Then just set up a chapter and start writing your memoir. Don’t worry about rules. There are no rules to writing your memoir; there are only trends. These trends are based on techniques and features identified in current top-selling memoirs. At best, they’re the flavor of the month. If you’re capturing your life in print for your family, for your own gratification or to inspire readers, rather than aiming to set off Hollywood screenplay bidding wars, these trends don’t even apply to you. You’ll write the memoir that suits you best, and it will be timeless, not trend-driven.There are no rules, but there are four steps:

1. Theme/framework
2. Writing
3. Editing/polishing
4. Self-publishing

You’ve researched this, too, and you’ve been shocked at the price for getting help with any one of those steps, much less all four. That’s because most memoir sites promise to commercialize your work. They’ll follow a formula based on current memoir trends, because they want to convince you that they can turn your memoir into a best-seller. These sites overwhelm you with unnecessary information not to help you, the memoir author, but to address Search Engine Optimization (SEO) algorithms so they can sell more.

That’s not what we do at Write My Memoirs. Our small community of coaches, writers and editors are every bit as skilled as any you’ll find, and we charge appropriately for their expertise and the time they’ll spend helping you craft a compelling, enjoyable read. But you won’t pay an upcharge for other websites’ commercialization, the marketing that follows, and the pages of intimidating “advice.” You can sell your book if you like—we have ISBNs available for you—but our organic process of capturing your story takes a noncommercial path.

If you want help with any or all of the four steps above, choose from our services or save money by selecting one of our packages. If you’d like to talk about what’s right for you, schedule a call. One year from now, you can be holding your published memoir in your hand. And at that point, it will be a big deal!