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Rosanne Ullman

Rosanne Ullman owns Write My Memoirs (writemymemoirs.com) to help people write and self-publish their life stories and co-owns Home Memoir (homememoir.com) to help people capture, in a coffee-table book, the love they have for their home. For 20 years, Rosanne taught grammar at a local adult education program, New Trier eXtention, and that well-received course is the basis for the Write My Memoirs Grammar and Writing Course. Rosanne has a long freelance career writing for and about various industries, particularly the professional beauty industry. Her observations about life appear frequently on various blog sites and include regular contributions to Sixty and Me (sixtyandme.com) and Boomer Cafe (boomercafe.com). Rosanne also is the author of the children’s picture book The Case of the Disappearing Kisses. She holds a Master’s degree in Journalism (MSJ) from Northwestern University’s famed Medill School of Journalism.

Creating a Cover for Your Memoir

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As an online publisher, we’d like to help you, at every stage of the process, to produce a true autobiography. Your cover is an important component of your book, so let’s discuss that.

You can have a solid color with no image but just your title. It’s sleek and certainly the least labor-intensive way to go. But, come on, you can do better than that. At least come up with some sort of design. You must have a budding artist in your family who can create a graphic for you; email that to us, and we can turn it into your cover.

The obvious choice is to cover your book with a photograph of yourself. Then the question becomes: what age of myself do I want to present? You may like your look best at a certain age, which is a good enough reason to dig up a photo from that time. Who you are right now, even with gray hair and a few facial lines, is another appropriate option. You’re looking back on your life from this moment, so the author and the subject of the book are both accurately represented by a current picture. Another good idea is to put your family home or the home in which you grew up on the cover of your memoir. When you choose an earlier photo of yourself, a house or other object, you can run it in black and white to convey the image of a time gone by.

The Next Step For Your Memoirs: Publish!

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I’m so excited to announce that Write My Memoirs now has everything in place to help you publish your memoirs into a real paperback book. After you’ve invested all of the time and your heartfelt work, it makes sense that you’d want to preserve your life story in something tangible, not just online.

We understand that self-publishing websites can be confusing and typically require you to submit special formats or fill out lengthy forms. That’s why we are determined to make it ultra-simple for you. Since your work already is stored here in your Write My Memoirs account, there is no need for you to resubmit it or transfer it to another format. We can take your chapters just as you have them and create your book. You’ll find our fee for this competitive with other online publishers, while the convenience can’t be matched! Just push the “Buy Now??? button and select credit card or PayPal payment, and we’ll do the rest.

For more information, please click here to jump to our memoirs publishing page. There’s also a link if you scroll to the bottom of the Write My Memoirs home page. Prices apply to 10 copies of your book so that you’ll have enough to hand out to friends and relatives. We also can run a higher count—just ask! In future blog posts, I’ll give you tips about selecting a cover for your autobiography and answer more questions you may have about publishing your memoirs.

Enter Your Memoir in a Contest

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Enter Your Memoir in a Contest
Having trouble staying on task with your memoir? A writing competition can be motivating for a couple of reasons. First, contests come with a deadline. That in itself keeps you working toward a goal. Then, of course, there’s the reason you’re entering—to win. Competing makes you try harder to produce the best product you can.
If you’re interested, the San Francisco Writers Conference is sponsoring an Indie Publishing Contest that specifically includes a category for non-fiction and memoirs. The other three categories are fiction, children’s lit and poetry. After narrowing the field to 25 entries in each category, the judges will name one winner and one runner-up in each category. The grand winner will receive a publishing contract, but all winners and runners-up will receive prize money or publishing help.
To be eligible to enter, you must:
Live in the United States or Canada.
Fill out a required form.
Submit up to the first 5,000 words of work that has never been traditionally published, although it’s okay if you’ve self-published the work.
Pay an entry fee of $35 for all categories except poetry, which has a fee of $25.
The deadline is January 5, 2011. Winners will be announced in February. For details, go to www.sfwriters.org. Good luck to all Write My Memoirs members!

Having trouble staying on task with your memoir? A writing competition can be motivating for a couple of reasons. First, contests come with a deadline. That in itself keeps you working toward a goal. Then, of course, there’s the reason you’re entering—to win. Competing makes you try harder to produce the best product you can.

If you’re interested, the San Francisco Writers Conference is sponsoring an Indie Publishing Contest that specifically includes a category for non-fiction and memoirs. The other three categories are fiction, children’s lit and poetry. After narrowing the field to 25 entries in each category, the judges will name one winner and one runner-up in each category. The grand winner will receive a publishing contract, but all winners and runners-up will receive some prize money or publishing help.

To be eligible to enter, you must:

  • Live in the United States or Canada.
  • Fill out a required form.
  • Submit up to the first 5,000 words of work that has never been traditionally published, although it’s okay if you’ve self-published the work.
  • Pay an entry fee of $35 for any category except poetry, which carries a fee of $25.

The deadline is January 5, 2011. Winners will be announced in February. For details, go to www.sfwriters.org. Good luck to all Write My Memoirs members!

Pace is Important in Chronicling your Life Story

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Finally we reach the last of author Kurt Vonnegut’s eight rules for writing a short story. It’s not a pretty finish in terms of how neatly his rules jibe with writing memoirs. Perhaps you’ll agree with me that Rule 8 is not a good fit:

Rule 8: Give your readers as much information as possible as soon as possible. To hell with suspense. Readers should have such complete understanding of what is going on, where and why, that they could finish the story themselves, should cockroaches eat the last few pages.

Vonnegut must be amused by his own irreverence. I don’t see an advantage to writing even a work of fiction with the possibility in mind that the reader may not finish the book. “To hell with suspense???? Many fans of the mystery novel would disagree! In our situation here, we’re writing a true story about our real life. I think we must unfold the events with some order and not focus on cramming the early chapters with all of the important information. Vonnegut has a point that a reader who fails to finish a work of fiction can concoct an ending that may be just as satisfying as the ending the author crafted. But this is one rule that does not apply to your memoir, which is nonfiction and, therefore, by definition leads to only one conclusion: the actual one. I’ve had fun reviewing Vonnegut’s eight rules and hope you did, too.

When Writing Memoirs, Keep in Mind a Reader Profile

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You can’t be all things to all people, the saying goes. That’s the core message of the seventh of Kurt Vonnegut’s eight rules for writing short stories, which I’m reviewing week by week and applying to writing memoirs.

Rule 7: Write to please just one person. If you open a window and make love to the world, so to speak, your story will get pneumonia.

This advice is pertinent to writing an autobiography. Let’s say your primary purpose is to provide your grandchildren and generations thereafter with the gift of reading about your life from your personal perspective. In that case, you’ll probably want to include many details about your family and the upbringing of your children (their parents). Now let’s say you’re writing a book for wider distribution. The general reader who enjoys autobiographical work will be more interested in the adventurous episodes of your life. Maybe you’ve been a soldier, competitive athlete, accomplished professional or victim of a tragedy. These tales will more likely keep the reader involved than if you go into great detail about raising your children. With this reader in mind, you also have more freedom to describe adult-oriented situations with language appropriate for that readership.

You may even want to write two autobiographies. One can be a G-rated memoir for your family, while the other takes a more sophisticated approach. Bottom line is that I agree with Mr. Vonnegut: you want your life story to be focused and healthy, not to catch pneumonia!

A Strong Memoir Conveys Struggle, Triumph

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Many of our members who talk to us about writing their memoirs have been through some very rough times. It’s a relief for them to spill it out by writing, and some hope that perhaps a movie will be made about their life and the way they survived their hardship. Continuing with our series of reviewing celebrated author Kurt Vonnegut’s eight rules for writing short stories, we’re up to the sixth rule, and this one is a good fit for writing memoirs:

Rule 6: Be a Sadist. No matter how sweet and innocent your leading characters, make awful things happen to them—in order that the reader may see what they are made of.

Applying this fiction-writing rule to non-fiction, you do not have to invent your troubled times, because you’ve lived them! Even if you’ve had a relatively easy life, no one escapes some difficulties. The chapters that deal with those episodes may end up being the most compelling parts of your autobiography. They also may be the most challenging for you to write. Recounting your darkest days will provide the opportunity for you to demonstrate, as Vonnegut says, what you’re “made of.??? Misfortune tests your mettle; what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? Whether your life story centers on your triumph over adversity or includes only a couple of sad experiences, use those accounts to keep your readers interested and put a yardstick to your personal growth during your lifetime.

Cryptic Advice For Memoir Writing Begs for Explanation

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As I continue along my journey of applying Kurt Vonnegut’s rules for short story writing to writing memoirs, I’m a little confounded by number five:

Rule 5: Start as close to the end as possible.

Perhaps here is where a memoir and a short story part company. When you’re relating your entire life story, shouldn’t you start with your birth? Look at it another way. Your life really is a collection of stories—short stories, if you will. Each episode contains its own set of background facts and paths leading up to the action. The lesson from this rule is to lay out the information the reader needs without indulging yourself by providing more than that.

Think of the way you might tell a friend about something that once happened to you. The story is compelling, or you wouldn’t be talking about it. But the set-up—frequently that’s a lot less interesting. You begin telling your pal the whole “back story??? and, the further you proceed, the more restless your friend becomes until finally blurting out, “Just get to the point!??? Keep that impatience in mind as you take your readers along your life’s tale. By building story upon story, much of the background information will present itself. Start as close to the end of each episode as possible, and you’ll have a stronger autobiography than if you ramble around the middle.

Another Key Memoir Writing Principle: Don’t Squander Your Words

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With this next guideline, we’ll be halfway through Kurt Vonnegut’s rules of writing short stories that I’m tweaking to apply to your non-fictional memoir.

Rule 4: Every sentence must do one of two things—reveal character or advance the action.

You might think that because Vonnegut intended these rules specifically for writers of short stories, not even novels, that the word “short??? is key to understanding why a story should embrace Rule 4. But I would argue that even if your memoir is as long as Ulysses at roughly 268,000 words, you should keep this rule at close hand. In fact, I’d swap out “sentence??? for “word???—you should be able to justify the inclusion of every single word you write. If you don’t need a “very,??? a “really??? or an “I think,??? what’s it doing in there?

However, I will permit playing a bit fast and loose with determining what information reveals character or advances the action. In your autobiography, you’ll have to provide explanation and background, which at first glance does not seem to meet either of Rule 4’s requirements but, in my opinion, it certainly can if crafted properly; it’s okay if the payoff does not show up until chapters later. If the sentence truly does not contribute in even a minor way toward revealing someone’s character or advancing the action, though, then I agree with Kurt: your tale is better off without it.

Everyone Wants Something!

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In applying some general writing rules to your memoirs, I’m up to Rule 3 of Kurt Vonnegut’s eight rules for writing a short story.

Rule 3: Every character should want something, even if it is only a glass of water.

This rule makes me laugh. I think Vonnegut is saying that you shouldn’t bring in characters unless you give the reader some understanding of what motivates that character and what that person is seeking. I’m not sure this applies to an autobiography, though. In fiction, you have more of a choice about introducing and developing characters than you do as a narrator of a true life story. For example, you may name a grandparent who died when you were too young to recall a lot about the person, and you can’t just make it up! You may talk about a teacher in terms of how that person impacted your life, but you’re not really concerned with the teacher’s own needs and desires.

What I think you can take from this rule, though, is to be open and analytical about what you want at each stage of your life. Don’t just describe what happens; clarify what you hoped would happen, what you wanted to get from your relationships and why you pursued the goals you did. If you also feel it’s useful to flesh out some of the other people in your life, keep in mind Vonnegut’s third rule of delving into those people’s dreams and expectations.

Vonnegut’s Rule 2: Get Readers on Your Side

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We’re on to Rule 2 of Kurt Vonnegut’s eight rules for writing a short story, which I’m tweaking to apply to your nonfiction memoirs.

Rule 2: Give the reader at least one character he or she can root for.

Since you’re the protagonist of your autobiography, I think this is an easy rule to follow! You probably are presenting yourself in a favorable light; I doubt that you’re writing an entire memoire from a self-loathing perspective. You’re a naturally sympathetic character!

But there’s still a writing lesson here. It has more to do with the way you should be building a little suspense. How do you get your readers to “root??? for you? Craft a narrative that maps out how you overcame adversity, reached a tough goal, triumphed over a rival or confronted a demon. Examples include conquering an addiction, repairing an important relationship or working to achieve a rags-to-riches fairytale. Any accomplishment that took a bit of blood, sweat and tears can work. Something as simple as winning a local sports events will be riveting if you write it with that “root for me??? approach in mind. So do not interpret this rule to mean that your autobiography should not reveal your flaws. In fact, the rule indicates quite the opposite: showing your darker side and your struggles, and then examining how you got through them and worked toward light, will have readers rooting for you all the way.

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Then just set up a chapter and start writing your memoir. Don’t worry about rules. There are no rules to writing your memoir; there are only trends. These trends are based on techniques and features identified in current top-selling memoirs. At best, they’re the flavor of the month. If you’re capturing your life in print for your family, for your own gratification or to inspire readers, rather than aiming to set off Hollywood screenplay bidding wars, these trends don’t even apply to you. You’ll write the memoir that suits you best, and it will be timeless, not trend-driven.There are no rules, but there are four steps:

1. Theme/framework
2. Writing
3. Editing/polishing
4. Self-publishing

You’ve researched this, too, and you’ve been shocked at the price for getting help with any one of those steps, much less all four. That’s because most memoir sites promise to commercialize your work. They’ll follow a formula based on current memoir trends, because they want to convince you that they can turn your memoir into a best-seller. These sites overwhelm you with unnecessary information not to help you, the memoir author, but to address Search Engine Optimization (SEO) algorithms so they can sell more.

That’s not what we do at Write My Memoirs. Our small community of coaches, writers and editors are every bit as skilled as any you’ll find, and we charge appropriately for their expertise and the time they’ll spend helping you craft a compelling, enjoyable read. But you won’t pay an upcharge for other websites’ commercialization, the marketing that follows, and the pages of intimidating “advice.” You can sell your book if you like—we have ISBNs available for you—but our organic process of capturing your story takes a noncommercial path.

If you want help with any or all of the four steps above, choose from our services or save money by selecting one of our packages. If you’d like to talk about what’s right for you, schedule a call. One year from now, you can be holding your published memoir in your hand. And at that point, it will be a big deal!

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